I would like to dedicate this post to a friend; one of the three A, C, E.
I don’t want to paint everyone with the same brush but I can certainly say that ALMOST all men are like this.
I think that the characteristic of the GIQ (Gentleman in Question) is already pretty clear from the title.
The Boomerang man is he who cyclically returns and returns and returns.
They can be serial or ex-serial suitors.
They can be divided into two subspecies:
He who returns when you are free; no, let me be more specific, when you have become free again. They act when they learn of the break-up with the lastest crush or, even better, at the end of the latest important relationship. The GIQ attacks with a conviction that is directly proportional to your vulnerability. If he learns that you went through a bad breakup, that you believed in the relationship that just ended, he will be rubbing his hands! (The world is small, people talk). In fact, his objective is to get close by consoling, being a shoulder to cry on and then…zap! Try again!
He who goes on the attack as soon as you are dating someone new. A little bit like Mr. Big from Sex and the City (who we like a lot. I love him, I dream of such a fascinating man etc. but I must admit that, except for the last film where they make him play the role of cuckold and content, he’s always been a pretty big asshole!). Do you remember the phrase, “Carrie might be happy – it’s time to sweep in and shit all over it”? Well, that’s the concept.
Then there is the mix between the two types who always tries, no matter what. In this case, the man-in-question either hopes to wear you down from exhaustion or he doesn’t understand (which may be even worse).
DNR! Do not resuscitate!
Suitors who become stalkers are to be eliminated.
Exes, reheated soups, never work!
OK, there is the exception to the rule: the friend of a friend of your friend got back together with their ex and they lived happily ever after.
In the green case these men are simply after the re-conquest - they live for the thrill of “I wonder if she still likes me”. In the red case, they have a problem with the concept of possession, and they never want to let you go. In the mixed case there is a bit of obsession.
My friend, to whom I dedicate this post to and whom I thank for the inspiration, is luckily aware and now an expert on GIQ's.
She always says: “People don’t change, they adjust, maybe, but they don’t change”.
This is a mantra to write in block letters and put on the fridge!
It’s simple and obvious but often confused by the hope that people will become the way we would like them to be.
Better a man who does everything to keep us close than one that does everything to win us back! Another triviality?!
Yes, but sometimes we take the trivialities for granted - it would be better to remember them!